“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.” Eleanor Roosevelt
“Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish.” John Quincy Adams
I just typed the word fear into Google. When the top advertising result was public speaking anxiety, I decided to do this post.
A few months ago, my friend, Tara Joyce, sent me a message through Twitter that she was feeling anxious about speaking at a conference. As someone who has been a member of Toastmasters for almost eight years, and as someone who has attended Kevin Bracy’s First Step For Speakers and From The Ground Up conferences, I believed I could offer a few suggestions to Tara. :) (Tara has a great blog for innerpreneurs, social entrepreneurs, and anyone searching for meaningful capitalism. Check it out here. )
Tara told me my public speaking tips were very useful to her. Since then, my Toastmasters friend, Jeff Moring, told me that the “Tara email” helped him tremendously with a presentation he was going to make at work. My hope, is that someone else will benefit from this email soon.
Below, is the initial “tweet” from Tara and my entire email response.
ElasticMind: Bill, I'm speaking about innerpreneuring at a conference next week in Lisbon and I'm feeling anxious about it. Any advice?
Good afternoon Tara,
Thanks for asking me about this! Suggestions... I just hope I stop writing before I write a textbook length email! (Is Lisbon, Portugal where you are speaking?)
Before anything else- Ask yourself, "Why am I anxious about this speech?" Am I afraid of what the audience will think? Am I afraid of being rejected?
Am I afraid of a miscommunication due to a difference in language(s)? Keep asking questions until you isolate the source(s) of your anxiety. When you isolate the source or sources of your anxiety, then you can attack the anxiety monsters with preparation.
1. I believe that preparation is the key to anxiety. Here are some things that I have learned about preparation. (I've learned some of them the hard way.)
a. What is your audience like? What type of information does the audience want to hear?
Tara, I once attended a conference in California that was about 90% African American. Well, in my cockiness, I prepared a speech that was funny, but had a very
southern United States type of humor. Several of my African American friends at the conference said something like this when I gave them an overview of my speech, "I know you are not a racist, but unfortunately, some of that humor can be easily misunderstood..." Ouch! I was up until about 4 AM, doing a rewrite. Here's the feedback I got afterwords. (My speech focused on overcoming depression and some of the other chronic medical conditions I have experienced.) "It took a lot of courage to speak about your personal experience, and I believe everyone in the audience found at least some benefit from your speech. But... people in California don't care about "Joe Bob." The humorous portions of your speech would have worked in Georgia, or North Carolina, but not here- this is California!" Ouch, again!
Here's the moral- Think very hard about the needs of your specific audience, before you arrive at the conference site. Do think about culture, race, etc. when you think about your audience's needs.
2. Once you are 99.9% sure what your audience's needs are, write your speech. (Draft one, draft two, etc.)
a. Only write out things to say that you are comfortable saying.
From reading your blog, I am confident that whatever you want to say will be interesting! :)
3. Practice, practice, practice your speech. But, and this is key- Don't memorize your speech, know your speech. In other words, know what concepts and ideas you are going to cover, and then get up and discuss them in your words. I believe that could stand up from your desk and give a great speech about innerpreneuring right now. Why? Because you are passionate about it. YOU ALREADY KNOW ABOUT INNERPRENEURING. If you know your topic, there is no way you can forget your speech. This approach is much easier than trying to memorize the speech. This said, you should practice. When should you practice your speech? In your mind while exercising, while showering, while.... practice it as much as you can tolerate it. Do practice the speech out loud for your husband and friends as much as they will tolerate it. Tape record your speech and listen to it. Now, might be a good time to join a Toastmasters group and practice in front of them. :)
VISUALIZE YOURSELF GIVING A FANTASTIC SPEECH OVER AND OVER.
4. Get away move around the podium or get away from the lectern. If you are more comfortable standing at the lectern where your notes are that is fine- But, do maintain eye contact with your audience 99%+ of the time.
5. Use humor, but... think through in advance whether your humor will be culturally appropriate. (I have found that opening with a joke or story can be very effective.)
6. VIDEO TAPE YOUR SPEECH AND WATCH IT BEFORE YOU LEAVE. In my opinion, this is the "legal steroids" of public speaking. If possible, video tape the presentation you make in Lisbon. You can sell copies of your speech on your website. You can use the speech for marketing. If nothing else, you can study your speech and decide what you want to keep and what you want to change in your speech.
7. If you can, do the thing that you find the most anxiety reducing before you walk out to give your speech. Meditate, go in a stairwell and yell, exercise etc. Please take a quick shower if you exercise. LOL!
8. Dive into your presentation, and let yourself become absorbed in your message. Be energetic in a way that is comfortable for you. As you do this, you will achieve a "flow state" and will feel very connected to your audience.
If you begin to feel anxious during your presentation:
a. Realize that there is about a 98% probability that the audience can't tell.
b. Begin to take very deep breaths. This works very well! It's almost like you are meditating during the presentation
Tara, I am confident that you will do a great job on this! If you have any questions, please let me know. Thanks again for DM'ing me about your presentation.
I hope my information is useful to you. I know this- I have enough info here to break into several blog posts. It's amazing how the law of reciprocity works isn't it?
Before I forget, please give me a report about how things go in Lisbon.
Hope you are having a great day!
Bill
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